So they're finally here, after 9 exciting, exhausting and challenging months you and your partner have been blessed with a (hopefully) healthy and happy new born baby, congratulations!

For some parents they feel an instant bond with their newborn whilst other parents may gaze down at their newborn and feel... well, not much. Different parents have different responses to their newborn, and if you're one of the one's whose been wondering why you don't feel an instant connection with your new child, then this articles for you.

First, know that you're not alone and that many other parents find themselves in this situation as well, and remember that just because you feel this way now doesn't mean it will stay like this, here are 5 simple ways you can help to build the bond with your newborn and create a relationship that will last a lifetime.


1. Aim to spend as much time with them as you can, especially during the early days and have as much skin-to-skin contact as you can.

Studies in the past have show that this can help release endorphins which can help to calm and reassure your baby, and will help them to associate and recognize your touch, scent and feel as being a place of security and comfort.

2. Sing and speak to your newborn.

Allow them to hear your voice as much as possible from the beginning, whether sing a lullaby or simply just talk to them whilst you're caring for them will do wonders in helping them learn to recognize you as being their #1.

3. Make eye contact with them whenever you can.

Although their eyesight is still developing newborns can still see and recognize human face and recognize your eye contact early on, so when appropriate and comfortable make as much eye contact with them as you can. over time they'll begin to recognize your face and become soothed and relaxed by your presence. 

4. Make sure your partner and yourself are the main one's feeding your newborn.

Feeding can be a very intimate time between a newborn and their parents, especially if the mother is breastfeeding. When holding your baby during feeding be sure to hold them close, make eye contact and sing or speak softly. Be sure to give them all of your attention which will help them stay calm and relaxed, and you'll always be seen as a source of nourishment, safety and comfort.

5. Give you baby plenty of attention and always respond to their needs.

The more time you spend with your newborn now the stronger the bond you'll form with them. Make yourself available and open to them, especially if they seem agitated or have started crying. If your child feels secure and safe due to your presence and attention they're much more likely to grow up into an independent adult.

We hope these simple tips will help you and your newborn bond well and be the start of a lifelong relationship.

- The Just Baby Bliss Team